Once again, I’m out of my depth, but after reading Tipsy Teatotaler’s thoughts on the mystery of confession in the Orthodox Church, I got to thinking about the notion of shame. (Note: one isn’t necessarily closely related to the other – the synapses in my brain just fire pretty freely on occasion.)
My thought was to question whether shame is a valuable emotion for the individual. I can definitely see the value in such things as guilt, regret, sorrow, and other emotions which are similar, but a little different. Shame, it seems to me, not only has a component dealing with unhappiness about something one has done wrong; it also has to do with perceiving one’s self as having low self-worth in the eyes of the community or some outside source. In other words, it’s not just (or even primarily?) about judging one’s actions as deficient and feeling bad for that; it’s about believing that the Other judges one’s actions as deficient, attributing weight to the judgment of the Other, and feeling bad accordingly.
So, in a sense, shame is a diminishment of self in favor of others. (Not a libertarian emotion, I guess!) I can see how, as a society, it would be a useful emotion to cultivate in members. But, is it beneficial on a personal level?
Random thoughts for a Wednesday morning.